Monday, February 16, 2009
~Struggling~
I am struggling with my patients with Mack lately. I want to pull my hair out some days! The last couple of months he has been so whinny. He whines about everything and if he doesn't get his way he screams and throws a fit. He want me to play ball with him 24/7 but when I do he whines the whole time because I am not doing it the way he would like it to be done. The boy has an attention span of 30 seconds. I try and give him things to play with but that last 30 seconds and he wants something else. It is hard to go anywhere at night because by 8:00 he is so tired because he fights his naps that he is very very whinny and it is hard to enjoy the night out. I want to enjoy being with Mack and be fun! I want my family and friends to enjoy being around Mack. Another thing is I feel like I am saying "no, NO" 300 times a day and he still doesn't get it. Church-he scream at the top of his lungs if I sit down with him in sacrament and the whole time I am trying to entertain the kid. Sometimes I feel it would just be easier to entertain him at home but I need to feel the spirit so I go to church and get no spiritual insight because I am not listening to what is being said. I love him and want to teach him there are boundaries and he needs to respect me and others and their property. What do I do. For my sanity sake HELP!!!
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How old is he again? I can't answer until I remember how old he is. He sounds very typical and normal to me. I worry all the time that M's behavior means he's getting bad habits and then he grows out of that one and enters another one. I have to remind myself twenty times a day, "I am a nurturer, not a disciplinarian." Very hard to do but it helps with blowing my top. Of course I still discipline but less and sometimes less is more.
Oh you poor thing! I hear ya sista! I have heard that it is not the terrible twos, it is the second year That is hard. Man, the minute they hit 1, it gets hard as they discover their independence and can't communicate real great. This too shall pass. You are a great mom and will know what is best for Mack. Being a mom is the hardest thing I have ever done, but it is also the most rewarding. Hang in there!
Brent said the boy needs to be smacked! Tell Rock his son needs the laying on of hands by someone who is in authority. Ha! Brent says you need to be alpha! The pack leader! Show him who's the boss. Of course Brent doesn't have kids so it's easy for him to say that. I'm sure he'll grow out of that in like 3 years. I'm just kidding Shane. I wish I had some words of wisdom but this is just not my specialty. Maybe you can ask Janice. Her kids are always pretty well behaved. Are you here blog friend? thepanlings.blogspot.com. You guys can keep in touch that way too. Love you girl! If I get any insight on your deal I'll let you know.
Oh man, I feel for you. Parker was the same way. He outgrew it though. Now it's other issues...like refusing to go to primary and then telling everyone that he hates it and hates singing and prayers etc. I'm sure people are thinking "way to teach your child". The other day the bishop asked Parker if primary was fun and he said "No! I don't like singing and I don't like the kids!!" HOw embarassing. Anyways, hang in there. Motherhood definately has it's ups and downs. I think that the 1-2.5 age is the hardest. After that, you can at least reason with them and they understand time out, and rewards and such. Let me know if you want to get together soon!
OH Shanie, just thank your lucky stars that you don't have two at the same age:) NO really, I know how hard it can be...but like everyone has said, they really do go through stages and the stages never last too long. One thing we do is put our babies to bed at 7:30pm. Then we can have someone come over while they are asleep and actually enjoy a night out. I have also had to learn to say "yes" more than "No" even if it means more mess and more work for me.....at least it keeps them happy! I love ya, and know your doing a great job..we all go through it!
The good news is that we all know how you feel. You jsut have bad days sometimes. Tanner has a problem with hitting and pushing. I have tried EVERYTHIG! I still try to be consistent, but I just have to tell myself that he will grow out of it. At least I hope so. All I can do is love him!
Shanie girl...I just think it is FANTASTIC, that you can voice your frustrations! When he is a teenager you'll be wishin' you could turn back the clock...HANG IN THERE...parents don't come with a set of instructions, and even if we did, kids change the chemistry of that over & over again. I think you are doing a fantastic job. Make sure you find time for a bubble bath, or steal some time to go to a $1 matinee, just by yourself...or paint your toenails...anything JUST FOR YOU.
Love you forever~
Mom
Shanie girl...I just think it is FANTASTIC, that you can voice your frustrations! When he is a teenager you'll be wishin' you could turn back the clock...HANG IN THERE...parents don't come with a set of instructions, and even if we did, kids change the chemistry of that over & over again. I think you are doing a fantastic job. Make sure you find time for a bubble bath, or steal some time to go to a $1 matinee, just by yourself...or paint your toenails...anything JUST FOR YOU.
Love you forever~
Mom
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